My Mothers, My Sister, My Friend

It seems everyones’ positive strength is also their negative

What did I uncover  – My mother-in-laws stubbornness helped her escape the nazis twice yet she is a painfully shy person. 
What did I uncover?
My mother-in-law A young girl in Russia who under Stalin was so hungry, sometimes didn’t eat for days.  Has health issues to this day as a result of malnutrition during her younger years. Someone who experienced the stark raw fear of being taken by the nazis at age 16 to work in parachute factories being put on train all alone, headed for Germany for two weeks,  never seeing her family for over 20 years. Someone who had to learn three new languages just so she could survive in her new surroundings, first German, then French then English. With a grade school education she accomplished this by reading books in that language and still is an avid reader today.
Someone who lived through all these experiences and when she sees you makes you feel like you are the best thing that has happened to her!
What did I learn
To be stubborn against all odds.  Be calm and let circumstances unfold, be patient and know things will work out.
Positive
My moms intelligence was able to orchestrate amazing events, be the backbone of my dads business and  touch people profoundly yet make her question her every move.
What did I uncover?
My Mother a young New York girl going to Queens College when tragedy struck her family. Because of her servant’s heart who was forced to leave college and her dream  to help support her extended family. Stood up on a New Years Date, Her disappointment made her angry enough to be bold an take new risks enough to flirt with a dashing solider that she met at a party she was invited to at the last minute. That dashing Commissioned Naval officer was my dad. She met him on the stairs to the party, never did go in but sat with him for hours and fell in love. Someone who  uses her financial brain to run my dad’s successful business, raise four children, and constantly share and give back to family and friends
When you were at our house you felt like you were the most honored, respected guest that we could learn from.
What did I learn?
To not always save face and keep the peace but be a disruptive even if people don’t approve. To love without reserve,  to be an oasis for those you care about
Dont’ keep it in let people know how you feel – it may change them for good.
Positive
My sister’s take no crap attitude helped her live through a tough divorce, raise an amazing daughter and build a very successful business but her independence prevents her from asking for help from those who want to help.
What did I uncover being the first born she had to pave the way for the rest of us.
What did I learn?
Stand up for myself  believe in myself. Constantly repeat an affirmation that I am smart, worthwhile and  have great ideas. 
Positive
My mentor and  friend’s quiet strength kept her way too quiet and humble about her accomplishments but her words still ring in my mind and heart. 
What did I uncover? My friend  who when she wanted to learn something was an outlier – spent thousands of hours researching and learning. Whether it was chronology, herbs or the Scriptures. She fell in love with Jesus researched the Gospels and compared the four accounts and made them into an amazing chronological story that still inspires me.  Someone who only spoke on things that she had experienced herself. Many times she had to share hard realities with me because I was stubborn, stupid yet open. Someone who quietly made sure at everything was okay with me and my family.
What did I learn
To empower a friend in need and to build them up with your life experience. To truly listen to someone and be inspired to give them the right words to inspire and encourage them. Not to be afraid to share the truth in love.
Happy Mothers Day

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